I’d like to think I know lots of things. I know how to ride a bike without falling over, find the domain of a quadratic equation algebraically, bake homemade chocolate chip cookies, and change 10 diapers in less than 30 minutes. But, there are some facts I hold dear to. Some constants in this world that bring peace to me, when everything else seems to be falling down.
- I know I have my family’s support. When I first told my parents I would not be continuing school at this point, and wanted to pursue being a doula, I was nervous. But of course I shouldn’t have been. It did take my parents a bit to understand exactly what a doula does and the training and requirements that it took to become certified, but in the end they agreed that if this was something I wanted to do, I should go for it. The same principle applied throughout my whole life, whether I wanted to switch from soccer to cheerleading, and after 9 years of cheerleading, switch to colorguard. No matter what it was, my parent’s only rule was that whatever it was I wanted to do, I needed to fully dedicate myself to it. I know my parents always have my back, which allows me to fully immerse myself into whatever it is I need to do to reach my goals.
- I know I am loved. I am so lucky to have such a wonderful family! Really, I do, and the worst part is I didn’t realize how great they were until after I moved out. That’s always how that works, isn’t it? I feel like I’m finally at a point where I can understand my dad’s life advice, and really tell my mom absolutely anything. Beyond that, I have my wonderful, wonderful boyfriend Jacob. Crazy to believe it’s been almost 2 years together! It’s the simplest things that he does that make me feel so loved; the little things that I’m sure he doesn’t even realize. When I can’t sleep, he’ll lay beside me and play with my hair until I do, I’m almost guaranteed the last bite of any dessert we share, and he lets me sing as loud and off-key as I want in the car. That’s love, friends. There are plenty more examples of obvious signs of his love, but like I said, it’s these little things, the ones that I’m not even sure he thinks about, that means the most. I know I am loved, and I am so lucky because of it.
- I know I am good at what I do. I always try to be modest, but there has to be a point where I can stand back and be proud of my accomplishments, even if there wasn’t an award or certificate at every point. At 19, I was the youngest person to ever be hired at the preschool that I worked at, and was being considered for a promotion before I moved away. Friends, when I applied to work at preschools I did so merely on a whim, with no prior experience in professional childcare, just the babysitting and summer nannying I had done in high school. But the director and assistant director both agreed that there was just a warmness about me, just something that told them I would be good. I know I am a quick learner, and was able to adapt to the classroom setting very well. Plus, I really do love babies!! Being an assistant teacher to a classroom of 10 little ones (all under a year old!) was honestly one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done in my life, and if it hadn’t been for the distance, I would have gladly stayed and continued working in that wonderful preschool! I loved each of those children dearly, and still think about them time to time. And now, with my new job as a nanny for two little ones, I am lucky enough to have two MomBosses who are kind enough to always show their appreciation for me! There’s days when things get frustrating, of course, but I always get a boost of confidence when someone visiting in is impressed by how well I’m able to handle B and G. I’d like to think I’ve got it mostly down, although of course I’m always learning. There’s just little things that have become routine to me that I realize are a pretty good example of work smart and being efficient (important when you’ve got two hungry little mouths every 3 hours!). In summary, I know I’m good at what I do, because if I wasn’t, I probably wouldn’t be doing it. If I wasn’t able to adapt and learn quickly, I would be frustrated very quickly and any other person not made to be a nanny (yes, it takes a special person!) would have probably given up. I press on, friends, excited to watch my little NannyKids learn and grow :)
- I know I’m going places. I love what I’m doing now, and even though the last 3 jobs I’ve had I loved to much I would’ve been fine staying there forever, I know I’m meant to do more. That doesn’t mean I’m impatient or unhappy/unfulfilled with where I am now, but I know I have the ambition and drive to keep moving forward, to keep progressing as a childcare provider and educator. As I’ve said before, I’m studying to become certified as a DONA Postpartum Doula, My ultimate goal, no matter what my certifications or position, is to educate women to be comfortable in those ever-tumultuous times before, during, and after childbirth. Giving birth is a sacred, sacred thing, and my dream is for every woman to feel loved and supported, taken care of and pampered even, so that she can give her full attention to her little miracle. Let me handle the stresses of having company over, the worries and doubts that come with breastfeeding, the exhaustion and emotions that come postpartum. Let me help you to be your best new-mother self! I know helping women having children is what I was meant to do, and I know I can get there, no matter what.
- I know I will grow into a confident, powerful woman. So the 20s are a weird time. I’m kind of where I want to be in life, but lack the resources and direction to be exactly there yet. I want to be taken seriously as an educator, and I know that’s just not going to happen at barely 20 years old. I want to be seen as a business professional, when I eventually open my own small business for my doula services, but again, it’s very difficult to get that respect now. While I am proud of my accomplishments to date, I know I need to keep learning and growing in order to earn the respect I desire in my field. But how wonderful would it be to be barely 40 and say that I’ve been doing this for 20 years! I’m not quite there yet, but I know within the next 5 years or so I will be the confident business professional woman I desire to be, and have all the experience, training, and certifications needed in order to back me up. I know I’m going to be amazing.
So there we have it friends, 5 things I know to be true as of today. These are solid facts that I know will never change. It’s nice to sit and reflect on these facts and really consider how truly blessed and grateful I am to be where I am today. What things do you know to be true friends? Think beyond ‘my hair is brown,’ ‘I am x years old.’ Think about unchanging, unwavering facts about your life that give you confidence and inspire you to keep moving forward. Once again friends, thank you for joining me here again on Saturday morning, and I hope to see you here again soon! Oh, and in case you hadn’t picked up on it yet, I try to post every Saturday before 11am, so be sure to sign up to follow, or just check back here at those times. Thanks friends!